We’ve all heard about chastity—the tiny cages where all of your “sins” are kept locked away. But did you know that many people actually love the feeling of being controlled, dominated, and teased?
It’s fascinating how something originally linked to purity and self-control has evolved into a sex practice, both in private and within relationships. For some, chastity has even become a lifestyle. And the best part? It’s genderless, so anyone can explore it whenever the idea appeals.
Chastity vs. “Chastity”
Sure, many of us have watched those guru videos about chastity as a virtue—a test between you and your future spouse, often in absurdly luxurious settings. Reality check: those are often scams. They’re not about self-control or intimacy—they’re about money. Life is better enjoyed with a healthy balance of pleasure and self-care, not overhyped challenges.
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The type of chastity I’m talking about is the one that has exploded online, the one that makes your sex life spicier with less actual sex. It’s about mind control, anticipation, and teasing—and it can be surprisingly intense.
How modern chastity works
At its core, chastity is about adding a twist to sexual experiences. Encaging your genitals and giving control to your partner—including whether you get to orgasm—can be incredibly arousing. But it doesn’t stop there: this little shift opens up creativity in pleasure, letting you focus on areas you might normally overlook—nipples, P-spot, testicles, or even your whole body.
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It’s not just about denial—it’s about expanding your sensory experience and exploring new dimensions of intimacy and control.
Give them the keys
Here, your partner takes the lead, and you step into the role of their willing “prisoner.” This practice requires complete trust, so it’s essential to have a thorough conversation beforehand about your expectations, limits, and the structure of this experience.
Chastity in this context is more than physical restraint—it’s a mental and emotional game. You’ll develop empathy, self-control, and communication skills, because there will be moments when you can’t speak, and your partner will need to read your mind through facial expressions and subtle cues.
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Handing over the keys is an act of trust and intimacy, showing that you can fully surrender your body—and your desires—into your partner’s hands. Make sure to discuss:
Duration: How long will the chastity period last?
Boundaries: Where and when will it be enforced?
Consent: Are both of you fully comfortable and committed?
This is a shared journey, and its success depends on mutual respect, communication, and trust.
What is going on inside of their ….. ?
Inside the cage, your body becomes a playground of pleasure and frustration, every touch and brush sending sparks through your nerves. The confinement amplifies every movement, making even the smallest shift feel electric.
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Your partner holds the power, guiding every motion, teasing, pressing, controlling the rhythm and intensity. You never know when a wave of sensation will hit or fade, leaving you hungry, frustrated, and craving more.
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Chastity doesn’t let desire fade—it builds anticipation, stretches it, teases it to the limit. Every touch feels sharper, every signal more intense, and the uncertainty of what comes next keeps your mind spinning.
By the end, your body may be restrained, but your mind is alive, on fire, and craving the next moment.
Final Bonus
Chastity is more than just physical restraint—it’s a game of anticipation, control, and psychological intensity. When paired with BDSM and role play, whether as a submissive bottom or a dominant top, every touch, tease, and command becomes electrifying.
Adding practices like pegging or edging takes it further, turning frustration into heightened pleasure. Each wave of denied release sharpens your senses, making every brush of skin, every subtle movement, and every command feel charged with tension.
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The thrill isn’t just about erections—it’s about surrender, trust, and anticipation. In chastity, every moment of restraint becomes part of the pleasure, and the journey itself is the ultimate reward, keeping desire alive, intense, and irresistible.
If you think chastity is your multiple-choice topping or just an exciting addition to your nights of love and daily routine, I want to hear from you. Share your thoughts, experiences, or curiosities, and let’s dive into this thrilling world together. See you soon!
Did you ever have fantasies about controlling electricity, transforming into Thor, the god of thunder? Well, this is not the post you are searching for.
Tesla was not prepared for the many different uses a Tesla coil would eventually have. Still, using small electrical zaps has always been fascinating.
Origins
Do you remember the classic scene of students giving electric shocks to frog legs? After that, the legs magically begin to contract, as if the frog’s spirit were still there. If we discard the ideas of frogs and spirits, the explanation is actually much simpler—and much older than you might think.
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We have to go back to the past , years 1800s . During that time, electrical belts were designed and sold as cures for impotence. Lust ran largely out of control, and it was not until the early 1900s that such devices stopped being seen as legitimate treatments and began to be questioned.
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Human fascination with electricity goes even further back. In Ancient Egypt, electric fish were used as a form of healing therapy.
As always, when sex enters the equation, human creativity tends to break walls that were never supposed to be broken.
How it works?
This therapy is usually used in BDSM sessions, where the dom or sadist uses a remote control. They send shocks that might be used as pain for the sub or to trigger uncontrollable impulses. The usual format of these toys focuses on erogenous zones, such as the penis, the big “O”, the nipples, and the vagina.
The idea of this practice is to switch the power until you reach the point where it hurts but is still pleasurable, right at the limit of IT HURTSSSS STOPPPP. If you want to have a really intense experience, the BDSM modality is like the hard mode in video games, way more extreme than its brother.
Red Flags
As with all practices, this one carries some risks if you don’t do it carefully. Make sure the intensity you use is appropriate, and remember that while the voltage adapts to your body’s resistance, this does not mean it is safe near the thorax. This practice can be safe and pleasurable, but you need to pay attention. You are playing with electricity, and the only thing that makes it safer is the high impedance of your body.
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Be aware of what you are doing. Wet skin can burn you, and long sessions at high intensity may cause neuropathic damage. If you have epilepsy, heart problems, or any infection, stay away from this technology—you don’t want to cause damage that cannot be repaired.
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Do not consume drugs. Do not use items that were not designed for sexual practices. Stay in full control of your body at all times, and at the first minimal warning sign, turn it off. It is always better to lower the intensity a little than to cause harm you may later regret.
Green Flags
As simple as it sounds, the total experience is far more intense and different than anything you’ve experienced before. The use of electricity can contract pelvic muscles, making the session even more exciting. Let’s do some basic training.
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The BDSM benefits are all about trust, communication, and higher peaks of dopamine. For pain lovers, damage is always on the list—I’m one of them. It’s not just about the pain, it’s about the mix of sensations that makes you beg for more pleasure.
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We all know the red flags are bigger than the green flags, but the key is that with caution, almost all red flags disappear, enhancing the green ones. It may sound dangerous and difficult, but with patience and good communication, it can be as safe as any other consensual practice.
After all this explanation, are you still interested in transforming into the omega of an electrical circuit, or do you prefer to be the bad B at the police station?
Remember: listening is just as important as doing. Communication is your real safety switch. Have fun, little bulbs.
Before doing this research, I thought that this practice would have roots in Greek or Roman civilizations, or other ancient cultures. Surprisingly, there are no historical records of it until 1968–1970, during the second sexual revolution. Even then, it was seen as a radical and extreme practice.
How did it start?
Remember how being attracted to the same gender was once heavily stigmatized? This social repression is exactly why many sexual practices began in secret clubs, where LGBTQ+ people could stop masking themselves and be who they really were. San Francisco became a central hub for this freedom—it was like the “Mausoleum at Halicarnassus” of sexual diversity. Many gay men moved there, creating a space where sexual exploration and expression could flourish.
At the same time, leather practices were rising in popularity, laying the groundwork for what today we call BDSM. Among these activities, one in particular—known by various names such as “handball” or “fistfucking”—was considered much dirtier than it is today.
Interestingly, people often complain today out of boredom, but back then, participants were more intense. It was said that “miners weren’t scared of mud,” so they often didn’t clean before practicing, and cleaning became a ritualistic part of the activity.
Europe?
In Europe, we also have this movement, and as mentioned by Knut Koch, fisting came to Europe with the introduction of slings in saunas. With this, many tourists from the U.S. influenced the spread of this subculture, leading to the appearance of new clubs, events, and communities.
Germany, in particular, played a major role in promoting leather clubs, fetish parties, and sexual events. Cities like Hamburg and Berlin became hubs for the leather and BDSM scenes, attracting both locals and international visitors. Events such as Easter Berlin, which began in the early 1970s, provided structured spaces where enthusiasts could meet, exchange practices, and explore their sexuality openly.
As a result, the subculture gradually expanded across Europe, not only through clubs and events but also through publications, personal networks, and shared aesthetics. The influence of American leather culture merged with local European expressions, helping establish a network of communities that maintained and evolved these practices over time.
The decline
Around the 1980s, society changed suddenly, and the emergence of HIV dealt a severe blow to the LGBTQ+ community, worsening how they were perceived by the public. For some, it was seen as God’s punishment; for others, a curse. The situation looked so dire that it felt like a step back into the past. Yet, within the community, instead of giving up, people resisted. They faced a challenge far stronger than public opinion: they adopted safe practices and emphasized hygiene, which allowed them to continue exploring and practicing their sexual activities despite widespread fear and stigma.
Actuallity
Nowadays, thanks to globalization, these practices are more accepted than in the past, although their social influence is not what it once was. Importantly, they are now much safer, with hygiene standards greatly improved.
The internet allows people to explore and enjoy these practices without needing to belong to any particular movement or worry about their sexual orientation. In the past, the scene was wilder but also more dangerous, with widespread chemsex and risky behaviors. Today, thanks to education and awareness, these risks have been significantly reduced. Social media platforms like Discord, X, and Reddit have also made it easier to connect with knowledgeable people. You don’t need to be an expert—just ask, and someone experienced will be happy to help you.
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What do 50 Shades of Grey, horses, and the ancient Greeks have in common? Keep reading, and by the time you’re finished, you’ll understand.
Ancient Cultures
We know how creative (and twisted) ancient cultures could be. They didn’t have TV or social media to vent to strangers, so they had to invent… other ways to entertain themselves.
The Greeks were the originals, obsessed with extremes, and Rome, true to form, copied everything — like eternal little copycats. Somewhere along the way, someone probably looked at the spicier practices of their neighbors and thought:
“Hmm… that’s clever. But what if we take it a notch further?”
And just like that, the idea that would later become figging started to creep into Roman “entertainment.” No one wrote down the mastermind’s name — maybe they were too busy marveling at their own creativity — but the concept of getting ginger into a hole was born.
Female slaves were punished with this activity, introducing it inside a hole, with the big question of where to put it: on her butt or her V.
The Origin of Figging
Now, normally after doing such things, society would improve… sorry, but no. The name figging comes from feague, which means putting something inside a horse’s ass to cheer it up — something like ginger or horseradish — and if the horse was particularly lacking in spirit, some of them used live eels. Why not?.
After this hilarious history class, figging made its grand entrance into the BDSM world. What was once a “motivational” trick for horses and a brutal punishment for slaves became a tool for humans to explore sensations that are… let’s say, intense and fiery.
Now you know what to try with your partner when you are lack of creativity.
Today we will talk about pegging , what it consist on , how to do it and it’s benefits.
The concept of pegging refers the activity of a person with a vulva , that penetrates a person with penis, this is usually did it with a strap-on,which is a Harness where you put your toy and insert it , in your partner.
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For being pegged you have to assure you are calm and you aren’t afraid , the less tense is your butt , the more you would enjoy it , it is recommended using water-based lubricant specially for silicone toys .
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If you are not comfortable with the harness you should know, you can do this practice without them , the toys you need to use are called strap-less strap-on and some of them comes with vibrations for both parts , after hearing this are you and your bodies prepare for incredible orgasms. Are you ready?
For those who don’t know what bdsm means , you have to know that every letter have a meaning , B of Bondage ,D of discipline and dominance , S of sumision , sadism and lastly de M of Masochism.
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This is more likely to an spectrum of different activites and levels than a activity , because not all the people likes the same , someones want to be humiliated and others only wants to be chained it depends on you and your partner , who always must have a safe word in case you do a lot of damage to your partner and stop the play inmediatly , this isn’t about suffering and making suffer ,this is about having pleasure .
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However , life is not a porno movie so don’t try to do hardcore thing at your first time , you will harm yourselves , we know it seems so cool on the movies and bla bla bla , but they are people who works doing that kind of stuff so be carefull . Have fun being naughty .
If you’re not careful, these are some of the things that could literally go wrong:
Tears and lacerations: Inserting the hand can cause tearing in the vaginal or rectal walls, especially if done without care or without enough lubrication (please — buy the damn lube).
Intestinal perforation: In extreme cases, deep insertion can perforate the intestine, which is a serious medical emergency (we know going deeper is thrilling, but sometimes it’s a red flag, not a green light).
Infections: Bacteria can easily enter the vaginal or rectal tract during the act, increasing the risk of anal infections (wash your hands, clean your toys, and use gloves — rubber is sexy too).
Internal bleeding: Rough movements or lack of proper lube can cause internal bleeding (talk to your partner — don’t suffer in silence; your body has limits).
SAFETY
We all know safety is cooler than ending up in the ER. But if you’ve never paid attention to the risks before… well, let me give you not just a hand — but a whole fist of advice:
First of all, for this glorious mission you’ll need: gloves, fisting lube, hands (duh), communication, and hygiene. We know you’re naughty, but you’ve got to be clean before your hands get dirty. «This message will self-destruct in 5 seconds.» «GOOD LUCK, BUDDY.»
Communication: Before practicing fisting, talk boundaries and safety signals with your partner. “My safe word is tortoise… you can use it if you want to.”
Lubrication: Use a LOT of lube to reduce friction and avoid tears. “Your butt is like an engine — the more lube you use, the better it runs.”
Hygiene: Wash your hands and trim your nails. “Manicures are for everyone — we know they look fabulous, but your bottom will thank you.”
Gradual Progression: Start with a finger or two, then slowly work your way up to the full fist. “We all want to get to the part where the fist goes in and the butt gets boxed, but before that… patience. As we say: ‘Con paciencia y saliva, el elefante se la metió a la hormiga.’”
Listen to the Body: If there’s sharp pain or discomfort, stop immediately. Never force it. Ever.
The keys for this practice are patience ,trust each other , comunication , be calm and don’t rush this is not a race.
We know it’s hard to stay chill when someone’s punching your insides with love — but trust us, patience is the mother of pleasure.
The name fisting comes from the concept of filling a hole with a fist. Its popularity grew hand in hand with the rise of the internet, the accessibility of sex toys, and the convenience of online shopping.
To talk about this topic, we reached out to real Reddit veterans. Thanks to them, we got some honest insights and first-hand experiences that really helped shape this piece.
For water-based lube, you can pick premixed ones like LubeLife, which is ready to use and made from safe, body-friendly ingredients. Or you can go for powder-based lubes like K-Lube and X-Lube, which you mix with water before using — they’re made mostly from cellulose, a plant-based material. Just avoid J-Lube — it used to be popular, but it’s actually made for animals, mainly from bentonite clay, and has warnings about causing serious injuries if it gets inside the body.
Cheaper or Expensive , it really matters?
The answer is yes, it really matters. Buying from unreliable sources like Aliexpress, Temu, or no-name brands at the sex shop often means getting products that can be low-quality, made with unsafe materials, or just poorly designed — which can lead to discomfort or even injury
The recommendation we give you is from a Reddit user, who suggested buying new toys from these brands:
Bad Dragon — considered premium quality, known for their unique and fantasy-inspired designs.
Mr Hankey’s Toys — very popular for their wide variety and fun styles.
John Thomas Toys — based in the UK, offering lots of special and creative designs.
Topped Toys — Canadian brand, famous for making the best traditional butt plugs .
Nothosaur— known for innovative and artistic toy designs.
Twisted Beast— features a cool satanic or dark fantasy theme.
Organo Toys — their eggs are especially popular for discreet and versatile use.
Preparatives:
Fisting is the wedding of the bottoms , you need to wear your best clothes and use your best-quality toys with the person you enjoy more .
Before getting started , we have to clean our house let me show you , how to do it correctly .
1. Preparation and Equipment: Fist of all, you need an enema bag or douche with a 3 to 4 liters capacity (small pharmacy kits usually aren’t enough; at least 2 liters are recommended). You’ll also want digital scales to accurately measure the amount of water you put in and expel.
The key advice for this activity is to take it slow — there’s no need to prove anything to anyone. If it hurts, just stop. It’s like marathon training: you’re not expected to run 10 km on day one. You start at your own pace, and with consistent practice, you’ll get a lot better over time.
One of the most important tips they shared with us is about breathing — deep, slow, and controlled. It’s all about learning to connect with those internal muscles through your breath (kind of like yoga) and relaxing them on command when you exhale. This helps you open up and avoid getting too anxious or overstimulated. One person said that after 6–12 months of struggling to get that long neck into the second hole, their body finally relaxed and just “sucked it right in” once they started focusing on their breathing.
The Art of Boxing your Guts
This one’s for everyone who’s ready to take things to the next level and introduce their fist with care and respect. Think of it like learning a new skill—start slow, use plenty of lube, and warm up with fingers first. Keep your hand relaxed and slightly curved, like a gentle fist, and breathe deeply to help your body open up.
It’s all about patience and listening to your partner’s signals—there’s no rush or pressure. Like any good boxer, you want to control your pace and know when to advance or retreat. Mastering this art takes time, but with practice, you’ll get smoother, safer, and more confident every step of the way.
